John: “Hi, how goes?” rhododendrons
Mary: “Good. The weather seems to be nice today.”
John: “Yes, it sure is a good day. Did you see the rhododendrons blooming along Salem Road?”
Mary: “Yes, they looked really nice, really fresh. … I think it might rain tomorrow.”
John: “Really, you think so?”
Mary: “I think I heard that on the radio.”

When I was a teenager, I distinctly remember thinking, “How boring. How boring! How BORING! How could people talk so much about the obvious!? Hello! I mean, yes, ok, the weather is nice, the flowers are blooming, yes, it may rain. Let’s get on with it. Let’s debate something. Let’s agree, let’s disagree, let’s find out why things are happening!” (Yes, I actually probably did think in terms of “Let’s debate something.”)

And now, I have COMPLETELY CHANGED MY MIND. Not even a little bit, not even a tiny bit, but a huge large, definitely, very large, very very large bit.

It has to do with living in the moment. What I once had thought was boring, I now think is so nice. So nice. Some of my favorite times are with friends – after we’ve caught up on this and that and this and that, and we’re just lying on the beach, in all our clothes, on the little washed-up shells, with the sun against our faces (probably commenting about how clear the sky is and how warm the sun feels). Or sitting on the couch in the evening with the music on and just saying how mellow the flutes sound. So simple. So good.



  1. Vito
    Posted Monday May 29, 2006 at 6:25 am | Permalink

    Hey, nice observation! I wonder if this is the real spirit also of making conversation…not just commenting, mind you, but making a communion with the other person. So its not what you’re saying, but how you’re saying them. Words not always conveying ideas, instead just a sign of shared humanity and acknowledgement that this is good.

  2. senia
    Posted Saturday June 24, 2006 at 11:22 pm | Permalink

    Yes, absolutely! Thanks, Vito.

  3. Nick
    Posted Monday June 26, 2006 at 3:45 pm | Permalink

    To me, it’s about 2 things: living in the moment, yes, but also, SHARING that moment with someone else. :)

  4. Nick
    Posted Monday June 26, 2006 at 3:46 pm | Permalink

    Oh, also, I’m glad for your new “changed mind.” You need to take time to smell the roses… with other people. :)